By Andrew Wong      18th Dec. 2012 中文版
Number Psychology and Energy Psychology  Articles Series

Excessive Obligation and Gratitude

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" Excessive Obligation and Gratitude" are common behavioral patterns of many of my hundreds of EP coaching clients, resulting in current difficulties and issues being faced.

There are many different manifestations.

Some have difficulty to say "No", cannot refuse request, obliged to act and respond and feel negative inside, yet dare not reveal.

They do not feel at ease, nor at peace within, thus stress gets induced and this stress further leads to more complications, like depression, withdrawal, or deteriorating performance or sickness.

They often exhibit lack of confidence mindset, low self esteem, indecisive, procrastinating, weaving in thoughts and actions, lack of will power.

Due to their "Excessive Obligation and Gratitude" attitudes, they attract people who take advantage of such 'soft' behaviors.

One of my clients, part her hard earned saving of RM ($) 1/2 million to a stranger!
There are so many cases in Singapore, old obliging parents surrender all the saving to the children and get chased out from their own house.

"Excessive gratitude" is receiving minor good gesture and feels the need to sacrifice his or her whole life to repay back. It can be a partner good in cooking, the concerned party receives the good meal and feels indebted and forgive all the short comings of the partner.

Relationship issues are boundaries problems and confusion over role-play : as sibling, as parent, as lover, as spouse, friend, colleague, boss, subordinate, business partner, as customer (instead of customer is king, they behave more like 'slave' or 'subject' and manipulated by service providers or suppliers. ).

One of the contributing factors to this out of balance behavioral pattern is the mis-conception that "one should be generous, kind, and considerate to people and show as much gratitude".

What sounds like a noble way of behavior, is actually a set of limiting beliefs, and psychological complexities (often becoming self- sabotaging), such behaviors become clearer in the EP coaching process.

The following is some examples of revelation of their personalities and underlying psychology in the categories of Number Psychology

  • [1] Self identity issue, low self worth
  • [2] Dependency on others, feel the loss of self,guilt without obliging to others
  • [3] Afraid to express deeply buried emotions by putting up a 'good front'
  • [4] Feeling unstable, lack of grounding, lack of discipline
  • [5] Overly focus on freedom and loose the boundaries in relationship like husband and wife, parents and children, customer and supplier, male and female. Some with belief like “My money is my partner’s money, so are my things”, though not the other way round from the partner!
  • [6] Compelling need to take the burden of the whole world
  • [7] Fear of facing own true self
  • [8] Fear of being controlled and offer submissiveness
  • [9] Blind faith in an ideology, or moral value e.g. 'sacrifice is a virtue', ‘please others by all means’, ..

Essentially such behaviors are driven by core-fear, the confusion and dilemma of his or her own existence in this world, for what purpose and what mission in life.

EP coaching helps to identify the underlying psychological issues and limiting beliefs, balance the arising energy from the thoughts, emotions and body sensation, to create a calm mind and felt sense of peace, thereby unleashing the power within.

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Introducing EP Coaching to Corporation

Energy Psychology Coaching Service for Corporation (6-8 months follow up services)

A new service is launched - "NP-Your Potentialities Report Writing Service"

Number Psychology training for the public  refer : “Number Psychology” (English), "數字心理學" (Chinese), with Participants feedback (English), 学员学习心得 (Chinese)

Energy Psychology training for the public  refer : “Energy Psychology (English), "能量心理學" (Chinese), with Cases  (English), 处理过的案例 (Chinese)

Or, your are welcome to communicate with your HR Director / manager to bring this training to your organization / corporation.

Numerology (Number Psychology, helps to get more information for effective coaching like the above. Unlike many profiling tools used by corporation / companies (more expensive too), it is a much simpler and effective tool, with revelation of more hidden messages.

Energy Psychology helps to balance the negative energies.


This coach is most grateful to the hundreds of clients (public and corporate) who provide greater learning for the coach in the coaching sessions, thus gaining more experience and insights on what and how coaching works. As a result, this coach is more ready to provide services to the public and corporation more effectively.

While the public continues to benefit from the one-to-one coaching carried out (refer Energy Psychology Coaching Service, and [Money Clinic] Coaching Service) , the corporation and organization can benefit from customized training on Mindset Emotion and Energy Psychology Training to develop internal skills as masterful coaches. (refer Specially for Organization / Corporation). Currently a long term contract is ongoing with a corporation on one to one coaching to the management, and developing them to be masterful internal coaches, thus creating a coaching culture.

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