Now, using the above case, we change the context to an organization
setting, say a General Manager is mad with his staff, …
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“I just screamed at this stupid staff for again messing up
the report at this crucial timing when I have to face the Board
of Directors.
I almost slapped him but I control. Having said that, actually I
know those words come out from my month hurt me more, as I can
feel my heart pumping faster, my shoulders get tensed up.
I regretted that I cannot calm myself down.
Actually I know I’m too tense for being a boss, a father (as I
can’t help myself behaving such way towards one of my children,
who never pays attention to his study), and husband …
I am scared I might get a heart attack at this rate.” |
Is there any different fundamentally?
No. In both cases, negative energies are generated by one-self, and also
do harm to the other parties. If continue regularly at such rate, the
negative consequences are not hard to imagine, not only to one-self but
also to the family or organization.
In both cases, there is lack of Emotional intelligence, and both need
the knowledge and skills to diffuse the negative energies towards
positive energies. And the coaching process I use is the same for both.
In another situation, organization members make complaints to me that
recent management policy is very harsh and unfair. That is, staff yearly
performance rating below par and not meeting the KPI, six month notice
is given. If the staff still cannot buckle up, he has to leave the
company.
Staff complaints are :performance system is biased, management is
unfair, staff did work very hard with good results, but the poorly
designed kPI did not reflect such, etc.
I also handle cases of patients, just given the medical report that they
may have six month to live, due to advanced cancer growth.
Again, what are the differences between the above two?
Really there is not much difference:
In term of mindset, they are quite the same : staff thinks that the
system is unfair, the cancer patient thinks that the life is not fair to
him. The former thinks he has work very hard, the later think that he
has done a lot of charity work, being a good father, husband and
employee.
In term of limiting beliefs, there are parallels : staff think that such
negative performance report means the end of the world, or his career.
The patient think that there is no more hope – to live till older age.
In term of negative emotion, again similar: the staff feel despair,
fear, anxiety , resentments, … most cancer patients feel likewise.
Coaching process for both categories of people is the same, with the aim
of helping the coachee to create new positive mindset, install new
belief system to take next firm step to move forward and to transform
the negative emotional energies to productive energies.
End.
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