“I must be strong!” is an approach often used by people who believes in Positive Thinking, especially when faced with difficulties and challenges in life.
This is another coaching case that shows that such approach, under the described situations, actually creates more harm than good.
Note: Words in brackets are the attributes of the client’s numerological numbers.
The client’s presenting problem is having sleepless nights for the past two months. He is having serious disputes with his business partner.
There were unkind accusations thrown at him by the partner in the public. He was deeply hurt and humiliated. However he could only present his problem during the coaching session as “I am in great confusion. Is the problem in me or my business partner?” He is not able to [express] his hurt and humiliated [feeling]. He is still trying to use his mind to rationalize things. He worries he will get mad at this rate.
Such debate and [rationalization] keep on going in his [head] every night, thus he could not sleep easy. He keeps hearing voices, the accusation at him in the public and his imagined rebuttal and debate. He becomes controlled by the noises in his [head]. He could not feel his [feeling], let alone [expressing] his [emotions.]
Four years ago, he faced even greater life challenges, not only his zero cash flow in his business, but severe marriage breakdown. And there were many difficult and unfortunate events in his life. He does see the negative pattern.
However he puts up a positive front of high [confidence] (3x). Never give up attitudes. “I must be strong.” is often uttered during the coaching session by him.
The coaching process helped him realize that he is not true to himself, his own venerable [feelings], and deep sense of [insecurity]. He is putting up a positive front, but insides are all torn apart. Yet he could not [feel] it, nor can he [express] it.
He is helped to focus his attention to his body reaction: stiff neck, painful chest, the heaviness in his [head]. With Energy Psychology applied, he felt much relieved and relaxed, many of the body discomfort ease and disappear. He is further coached on how to get in touch with his true feeling and emotions, and not be hidden under the mental strong-will rationale and positive thinking – “I must be strong”.
He begins to understand that excessive use of the mental power (e.g. positive thinking, and using only rationalization, i.e. “I think therefore I am”) makes him a slave of the [head] or mind, i.e. being controlled by the mind. This causes energy blockage. When the connection with the [heart center] is made, with emotions freely expressed, can the energy Qi flow more freely.
Blocked negative energies often attract more negative event s in life. Positive thinking and sheer mental power further blocks the energy flow. A vicious circle gets created.