Personality
Each individual is unique with certain personality traits. There are
several personality types : e.g. achiever, helper, perfectionist,
romantic etc. There is no one standard or ideal personality, as each
personality has pros and cons, depending on how one makes full of his or
her own attributes to produce the desired positive results.
Often people are not fully aware of their own personalities, or even if
they do, he or she may not understand how the various strategies used in
the personalities affect their performance or attract sickness.
Strategies adopted to go about life as per certain type of personality,
operate in an automatic mode, and each strategy on its own has its good
rationale or value system, well justifiable. This is where the problem
lies, as we will discuss in the following two generic cases.
Achiever Personality
A client is an achiever type of personality. In his late 40s, he has
been very successful in his business, much to the admiration of many.
Currently he feels depressed, having difficulty to sleep at night, and
his health report is not so promising.
He comes to the Energy Psychology coaching session with the goals of a)
restoring his health, and b) to accomplish a even greater business goal
(a potential big contract with heavy investment, if not careful he can
go bust.).
The following strategies in such personality of achiever are reviewed.
Such strategies are, consistently and often consciously, the drivers for
his action and current performance.
It is not hard to imagine when such strategies are operated to an
extreme, energies are drained. This may not be obvious in the younger
days when the body still has the stamina to cope. Examine more closely,
in the above case, feelings are buried deeply without recognition,
expression and let along dissolution. Generally these negative feelings
as a form of energy are trapped in the body.
Energy Psychology coaching often reviews hidden stories behind such
incessant strategies, hence behaviour and negatively charges feelings
from early years of unpleasant experiences, giving rise to the
conclusions made then and adopted as general principles and strategies
to be applied again and again in whatever the situations or contexts.
In this case, the client has the mental image of poverty, experienced in
his childhood. He is constantly in fear of retuning to such terrible
scenario.
Energy Psychology helps to identify and dissolve such negative emotional
energies.
Peace Maker Personality
A client is a well respected facilitator in a corporation. His
facilitation service is often called upon when there are conflicts and
tension among stakeholders. Now he is facing his mid-life crisis, not
sure of his direction in life, (with retirement not far in the corner),
and feeling little accomplishment in his life, especially his personal
and family life.
He comes to the Energy Psychology coaching session with the goals of a)
seeking a clear and definitive direction in his life, and b) to be more
assertive and disciplined.
The following strategies in such personality of peace-maker are
reviewed. Such strategies are, consistently and often consciously, the
drivers for his action and current performance.
[I often feel in union with nature and people.]
[Making choices can be very difficult. I can see the advantages and
disadvantages of every option.]
[It is sometimes hard for me to know what I want when I am with other
people.]
[Others see me as peaceful, but inside I often feel anxious.]
[Instead of tackling what I really need to do, I sometimes do little,
unimportant things.]
[I usually prefer walking away from a disagreement to confronting
someone.]
[Sometimes I feel shy and unsure of myself.]
[Supportive and harmonious relationships are very important to me.]
[I focus more on the positives than on the negative.]
I am now going to construct a story using the above strategies. Imagine
such set of strategies are performed again and again,a
reinforcing result or vicious circle gets created.
Since [I often feel in union with nature and people.], it is easy for me
to play the role as a good facilitator, without taking sides as I see
advantages and disadvantages of every point of view.
[It is sometimes hard for me to know what I want when I am with other
people.] as I am always at service to others, not myself. It seems that
I am running away from my true self, which can be quite frightening.
Hence [Making choices can be very difficult. I can see the advantages
and disadvantages of every option.] [Instead of tackling what I really
need to do, I sometimes do little, unimportant things.] It is safer that
way.
[I focus more on the positives than on the negative.] I really don’t
have the courage and honesty to face the negatives in me, [I usually
prefer walking away from a disagreement to confronting someone.]
[Supportive and harmonious relationships are very important to me.]
Better don’t rock the boat, even later I may regret and hate myself for
not facing the truth.
[Others see me as peaceful, but inside I often feel anxious.] Deep
inside me I don’t feel real peace, which again I try to ignore and do
un-important “pleasant” things to occupy myself, although I know
something is missing in my life like I now feel, what they call mid-life
crisis.
In this case, the client has disturbing and very negative experience in
one part of his life, since then he feels safer to avoid it, not to face
it, “think positive” , though the negative is still in his sub-conscious
mind, generating the vicious circle he is in now.
Energy Psychology helps to identify and dissolve such negative emotional
energies.
Driver for Personality
It helps to understand strategies used as compensation by the
individuals to overcome something lacking, missing or avoiding thus
create the motivation to use such strategies, again and again.
Until one can fully integrate the whole being : a state of well balanced
fulfilment and peace with respect to the external and internal worlds,
not incessantly, consciously or un-consciously driven by a set of
habitual strategies and responses, one will continue to get stuck in
today performance problem.
Strategies are not necessary limiting beliefs or negative thoughts.
(refer Limiting Belief - the Danger, yet
Unknown.). As discussed above, each strategy on its own sounds
logical, worthy for action, …. But ONLY in certain context, as there is
no one standard strategy (or set of strategies that make up the
personality) that is the absolute formula to life challenge.
This is this over fixation of use of certain strategies (consciously or
not) without making distinction of which context to be applied, get
people into trouble, as observed in the many cases of my Energy
Psychology coaching service to clients.
It is not necessary that all Energy Psychology coaching approach from
personality, though in certain situation it could be helpful for client
to have greater awareness of oneself, thus able to make wiser choices.
Please note that the coming Energy Psychology Training
in May 8-9 Sat
Sun does not cover use of personality, but the essential of dissolving
and transforming negative energies (like negative emotions or beliefs)
to positive is addressed.
Corporation / organization interested to have a one-day workshop on
Energy Psychology and Personality, helping individual to release the
negative and contributing towards the collective positive energy for the
organization to move forward is welcomed to contact undersigned. Refer
Aligning Collective Personalities
Towards Organizational Excellence
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Energy Psychology Training
【能量心理学】培训课程
This coach is most grateful to the hundreds of clients (public and
corporate) who provide greater learning for the coach in the coaching
sessions, thus gaining more experience and insights on what and how
coaching works. As a result, this coach is more ready to provide
services to the public and corporation more effectively.
While the public continues to benefit from the one-to-one coaching
carried out (refer Energy Psychology Coaching Service,
and [Money Clinic] Coaching Service)
, the corporation and organization can benefit from customized training
on Mindset Emotion and Energy Psychology Training to develop internal
skills as masterful coaches. (refer Specially for
Organization / Corporation). Currently a long term contract
is ongoing with a corporation on one to one coaching to the management,
and developing them to be masterful internal coaches, thus creating a
coaching culture.
